Take two and call me in the morning…

I know I’m not the only person who has felt heartbreak, and I also know that the holidays can be particularly hard for many people so I wanted to share some of the quotes and videos and songs I’ve been surrounding myself with during all of this.

For when my faith wavered:

For when others made me feel weak:

When I felt trapped by the past or deeply feared the future:

When the opinions of others threatened my ability to carry on:

And there were songs too:


You delight in showing mercy
Mercy triumphs over judgment

My past embraced
My sin forgiven
I’m blameless in Your sight
My history rewritten

Oh love, great love
Fear cannot be found in You
There will never be a day
You’re uncertain of the ones You choose

I will wake and spend my days
Loving the One who has raised me up
From death to life, from wrong to right
You’re making all things beautiful

You delight in showing mercy
Mercy triumphs over judgment

Better than a Hallelujah by Amy Grant

Key lyric: “We pour out our miseries, God just hears a melody.  Beautiful the mess we are, the honest cries of breaking hearts are better than a hallelujah.”

Broken Together by Casting Crowns

Key lyric: “Maybe you and I were never meant to be complete, Could we just be broken together?  If you can bring your shattered dreams and I’ll bring mine, Could healing still be spoken and save us?  The only way we’ll last forever is broken together.”

And the many books that saved me:


(And many more.  I love books.)

There are a bunch of great Ted Talks.

The one that helped me the most was by a woman named Esther Perel, and it’s titled: “Rethinking Infidelity”.  It’s specific but would be a good watch for anyone who is affected by infidelity, especially the extended family members.

Key quotes:

“Your first marriage is over would you like to create a second one together.”

“I would no more recommend you to have an affair than I would recommend you to have cancer, and yet we know that people who have been ill often talk about how their illness has yielded them a new perspective.”

(Reminds me of the  song “Live like you were dying” by Tim McGraw)

Of course the whole Bible is good for heartbreak and healing, but these verses spoke to me the most:

Mountains became my metaphor: my faith can move mountains, you were assigned this mountain to prove it can be moved, I will climb this mountain with my hands wide open, etc…

And the biggest verse was:


Fall down 7, stand up 8.

And I would say it to myself.  Outloud.  Daily.

“You can do this, you are strong enough, wise enough, you’ve got this.  God’s got you.  He will lead you.”

Over and over.

And I will forever be thankful for the kind words and support from our friends, pastors, counselors and family.  The emails, the texts, the phone calls, the coffee dates.  I’ve never been so surrounded by cheerleaders and support groups.  The folks that are walking this with us daily, those of you who sat with us at our worst and kept answering the phone, kept showing up, kept praying.  You are God’s love translated on earth, you are the very definition of faith and family and friendship and unconditional love.  I adore you, I chose you, I cherish you.  Thank you, thank you, thank you.  I’d truly be lost without you.

A dear friend once said to me, “If anyone can do this it’s you.”

And I believed it.

I am strong enough to do this.

I am doing incredibly well.  It’s unbelievable really.

I feel strong.

I feel like a matriarch.

I feel like I kicked this affairs ass, honestly.

And I hope some of these tools will help and bring comfort to those of you that need it.  I thank all of you that have loved and supported me and my family through this valley.

And I wish you all a very Merry Christmas.

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